reaching the POINT

"i was a carefree woman, stronger and sure of myself now.. i'm just screwing things up"

"it's because you've experienced love, now that it's gone and you're looking for it again, hence... you're not as before"
"unless you stop looking, like totally decided... that"

"OK THAT'S IT! I'll do something else and dont want to look for a companion, if got then got, dont have then dont have"

"only then when you have reached that POINT, you'll be "free" and back to your old confident, carefree, strong self"

now that's one heck of an advice, and i'm keeping that close to my heart.. so the question now, WHEN will i reach that POINT?