is it work?

i've been wanting to write something i came up with in my mind. it was about 2 days ago that i told myself i'll write this... so what i wrote in my "head" i can't seem to write it down properly... words all getting jumbled....

anyway.. what i was trying to say is that sometime ago, i was told that when u consider staying in a relationship, work.... it's not a relationship anymore.. it's something u have to do because u're in one...

somehow that may be true in some ways and some ways it's not true.. i don't know.. (everything seem to have the good and bad side..) but i guess the person telling me this has a different way of thinking, or was just trying to be philosophical with me (that i wouldn't know)...

what it was meant is that.. if u think u are burdened in doing stuff in a relationship and u feel it's like work cause u HAVE to do it.... then it's not right... u have to have to WANT to do it because u're in the relationship and that it makes u happy doing it and your doing it out of love.

so what does one do if one thinks the relationship is "work"? do u try to change it into something that u want to do without asking or assuming that u have to do it? or do u find another relationship which u don't feel like it's work?

i guess it's also time for me to look into my relationship... do i think it's work? does he think it's work? it'll be really serious if it is....