DAY16 - TakeBackTheTech

the final day of the campaign...

it's been a tough 16 days, cracking my head thinking of how to link Violence against women and ITC.... through the website i've learnt things i never knew and unfortunately irked some ppl on my views.... sorry YOU feel that way, but i'm just saying what i think and what i think as a woman would say....

so the final day talks about human rights... well, if all those rights are being used.. wow, what a perfect life we would be in but unfortunately, we're not in that state... yet... here are the ones i strongly feel for

1) Everyone is born free and equal ... yes EQUAL...

2) Everyone is entitled to human rights without distinction or discrimination ...yes...do not discriminate ppl... we are all human, the same...

3) Everyone has the right to life, freedom and security .. everyone should feel SAFE where ever they are

4) No one should be subjected to slavery

5) No one should be subjected to torture or to cruel, inhuman or degrading treatment or punishment ...yupz ppl.. no hitting!!

7) Everyone has equal standing and protection before the law without discrimination .. yes everyone should have the same protection, be it u being a datuk or not

13) Everyone has the right to freedom of movement and residence in their own country, and others.

16) Everyone has equal rights to marry and have a family ... y not? right?

17) Everyone has the right to own property.

18) Everyone has the right to freedom of thought, conscience and religion, and to practice it ... and u can't force them into one..

19) Everyone has the right to freedom of opinion and expression, and to information ...we should be able to voice it out, if u dun like it, well don't hear it...

24) Everyone has the right to rest and leisure ...i like going for holidays...

25) Everyone has the right to adequate livelihood and a reasonable standard of living ...no one should be poor when there are over-the-top rich ppl...

26) Everyone has the right to education.

27) Everyone has the right to culture, arts and scientific development, and to benefit from them

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DAY15 - TakeBackTheTech

u know those cop movies, detective stories, special forces shows, don't u notice that the cases are mostly about rape cases, kidnapping of children and women, serial killer that kills women.... why is this so? y can't they have cases on kidnapping of men, rapes of men (yes, there IS such thing), killings of men, why is it that it is more popular when a woman is the victim?

it's discrimination! don't u think?

i can't deny that i don't enjoy these shows, but ever since i started this campaign, i realised that 70% of this cases involves female victims.... isn't that just sad?

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DAY14 - TakeBackTheTech

She loves him alot

...but he takes her for granted...

she's stuck and can't leave

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DAY13 - TakeBackTheTech

he walks in the room

raises his hand and hits her

she cries non stop alone

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DAY12 - TakeBackTheTech

there are many ways in spreading this message over... TakeBackTheTech has listed out something to do each day for the 16-day campaign... check this out. though i may not have followed these steps, but at least i stuck to blogging about this for 12 days! hehehe got 4 more days to go...

Day1
Wish your friends a good "International Day for the Elimination of Violence Against Women"!

Day2
Change your email Signature - instead of the usual stuff you put at the bottom of your emails, add something about violence against women for these 16 days

Day3
Find a cyber café near where you live, and invite their many users to think about violence against women. Change the first thing they see by changing the computer's homepage/wallpaper.

Day4
Snap a picture. Change how women are currently defined in digital spaces. It can be anything, from a piece of clothing to writings on the wall to the picture of your seriously weird best friend.

Day5
Snap a picture of an abuser or perpetrator.

Day6
Think of someone who has told you s/he wished to know how to do something in relation to technology. It can be a friend, a colleague, a family member, or someone from a mailing list. Contact them, and offer to do a step-by-step tutorial on how to do something that is technology related. Come up with a simple project together.

Day7
Spend half an hour surfing the internet, and look for information or websites that will help others take control of technology to counter violence against women. When you've found them, bookmark then and share them through del.icio.us

Day8
Tell your story. Use technology to amplify your voice.

Day9
Make videos that can interrupt violence against women.

Day10
Change your status message to something thought-provoking in your network of contacts - MSN, Yahoo Messanger, ICQ etc.

Day11
Call up your local radio station and suggest a topic that they can discuss, or as a call-in listeners opinion poll. Podcasting - record your programme and upload them -- usually as MP3 files -- onto a server.

Day12
If you use instant messengers to chat online, or blog, or have your presence on other kinds of digital spaces (e.g. myspace, friendster, etc.), change your icon for the next few days until the last day of the campaign - 10th December.

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DAY11 - TakeBackTheTech

lil suggestion...

this campaign should be held in offices, where sexual harrasment happens more often than anywhere else... posters should be hung up on walls, wallpapers of every PC should be changed to posters campaining Violence against Women, talks on the rights of a female employee should be held....

if they can have World AIDS day in the office why not this right? ;)

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DAY10 - TakeBackTheTech

IF I HAD a magic wand...

I WOULD point it at him and give him a heart so that he would stop hurting women...

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DAY9 - TakeBackTheTech

why is it wrong for women to succeed in something? it's like if a girl succeeds in school it's because she bodeks the teacher? of if a girls gets the promotion, she's sleeping with the boss? or if a lady manages a business, it's because she inherited the company?

why can't women just have the success on their own? their own blood, sweat and tears? why must there always be a reason or a story behind her success?

we ARE capable of doing it whether we have the support of our fellow male species or not... and i believe the we HAVE the talent, the confidence and the support to be what we want... with or without the presence of males.....

so to all women out there, if u dream of opening your own bakery, DO IT! if u dream of setting up a business, DO IT! if u dream of becoming the best even planner, DO IT! or if u dream in becoming whatever you desire, just GO AHEAD and DO IT... don't let anything stop u, not even men!!

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DAY8 - TakeBackTheTech

once i had an email forward, very long long time ago when i was in school, it said

walk with someone who's not that beautiful and other ppl will notice that YOU are the more beautiful one...

at first, i thought this would work, especially when i was not one-of-those-girls that get second glances from boys....not that i went looking for ugly friends to walk with, but instead i realised that they were using me for that reason!!! O_O

but what i'm trying to say is, why do men just look at beautiful/pretty/skinny wow-type figure girls? what is wrong with us average ppl? we too are females.... it's the world today, discriminates looks... if u're pretty, skinny, have flawless skin, u're accepted... if not, we belong to the "same" type of ppl? i guess this happens both ways men towards women and women towards men... but it's so much obvious when men gives a second look to the prettier girl standing next to you and at the same time ignore you and is at seems u were never there in the first place.

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DAY7 - TakeBackTheTech

IF I HAD A get-fat-n-ugly laser gun,

I WOULD shoot the fellas who discriminate fat women!

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DAY7 - TakeBackTheTech

will be away for the weekend, so won't have any access online.. will "ganti" my campaign posts on monday...

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DAY6 - TakeBackTheTech

gosh.. it's getting harder for me to write bout this campaign (especially when it's 16 days long, which means minimum 16 times/stories/issues).... but fret not, i'm trying.. heheheh...

ok...

from reading some bloggers who are joining this campaign, someone was talking about their online chatting experience... as a chatter myself, i too had encountered some frustrating stupid male chatters... at first, being a starter, i would tell everyone who i am, what race i am and whatever nots.... and because i'm a mix, everyone thought i was a HOT CHICK and that i had loads of "experience"... i mean, how could u pass that judgement of just knowing what race i am? and because i'm not a dumb blonde, they wouldn't want to speak to me cause it seems i'm too "smart" for their stupid egos...

so in order to get a decent proper conversation i'll have to "act" like i'm a guy.... though most of the guys online are just finding for girls to talk to.... it's hard to find someone who can have a proper conversation without having to know how old u are, if u're female or not, if u're indian, chinese, malay or eurasian.... after a while i got fedup with how male chatters treat girls online i stopped chatting...

though after a long while i decided to get back to the chatting scene just to see what's it like and fortunately i've found my bf.. hahah so sorry to him i had to "act" like a guy to find a good conversation, i did! with him.. and when i told him i was a girl he was shocked at first but had already accepted me as who i am....

well, u would think i'll be still in chatrooms after that? cause i found someone nice through chatting? heck no.... cause i DID go back to chatting but it went back to square one... having guys harrassing me online... it's been nearly 6 years since i've been to a chatroom and till now i'm still greatfull that i managed to find someone nice online...

so.... maybe i'm too old for online chat, but it's not like before and it's like what it's SUPPOSED to be....

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DAY5 - TakeBackTheTech

i had this conversation long time ago with a guy (i'm so sad that he's my friend) he said that the reason girls get raped is because they wear sexy skirts, wear their hair sexy and with makeup with high heels... if they wore a more covered up attire, they wouldn't get raped..

uh.. i mean WTF? hellooo..... girls who get raped are not ALL dressed like that... u also get housewives, old aunties, children getting raped, and would they be dressing like that? any female has the risk of getting kidnapped and raped, be it shopping at malls, going to church, watching a movie, exercising at the gym, having a walk in the park, driving, waiting in a post office... anywhere la... there's the risk of a bloody stupid idiot forcing u someplace and raping... so there's no difference if u're wearing a short skirt or not...

so, to the men out there who thinks girls who wear short skirts have a higher risk of getting raped, it's so wrong... u should broaden your mind sikit and see that that's not the only reason rapes happen ok!! rapes happens because men can't control their stupid egoistic urges...

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DAY4 - TakeBackTheTech

u know in movies sometimes u come across a scene where someone is driving to no where in the middle of the night and they switch on the radio and there's a show on it where ppl call the radio station up anonymously and tell their probs, something like "Dear Thelma".. but on the radio? but now even the radio is also live on the internet! so such programs should be introduced in websites and forums so that even those from the other side of the world would know...

well i notice that there's none here in malaysia, maybe the topics too sensitive but though there ARE web forums all aroun on the internet that serves such services but wouldn't be also good to have it on a radio station? for women to call up anonymously to let their anger out on air while at the same time the radio dj or even listeners can call up to give advice? at least, this way, victims will know that they are not alone and that they can learn from each others mistakes on what to do to prevent themselves from "them" who hurt them....

that's my lil idea about violence against women using the radio...

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DAY3 - TakeBackTheTech

though i know this is in the newspapers, but i would like to share this good news to my female readers out there... using my blog....

More battered women aware of their rights

i'm glad of this headlines in todays STAR.. it's good that women now know more of their rights in being a woman AND a person in this country, this world. no one should just keep quiet and take whatever that is thrown at them just because u are a female - the weaker sex... i say, we should boycott the use of "the weaker sex" it's just sounds so wrong for me...

A joint effort between the police and WAO, the posters which aim to inform women of their rights under the Act, will be placed in all police stations throughout the country.

hello.... not just put it in police stations?!! the posters should be EVERYWHERE! in supermarkets (that's where most women are), hair saloons, beauty parlors, malls, restaurants ... practically everywhere where a female might be.. that is how u will get the message across.... i mean, how many of us often go to the police station? i don't! unless i was involve in an accident, other than that, why else la i want to go to the police? so if the posters were in more public places.. at least the women will know that there are ppl out there to help them and the men would know that THERE ARE PPL THAT WILL PROTECT them and maybe will think twice of landing a hand on a woman!

On average, at least one in three women is subjected to intimate partner violence in the course of their lifetime

it's scary, just to look around u, that out of 3 women, 1 is abused..... just imagine, i'm with my girlfriends all 6 of us or so... and to think that 2 of them are subjected to partner violence; it's sad and scary... i hope none of my friends are victims...i dare not think about it... but i do pray that those women will have the courage to speak up and fight for their rights and dignity.

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DAY2 - TakeBackTheTech

IF I HAD a camera and managed to catch a pic of him beating up a female..

I COULD send that picture to his OWN PARENTS to let them know what their son is up to

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TakeBackTheTech

so i came across this from Lainie and i thought, what the hell... ok!

what's this about? it is for all who uses communication like chat, email, blog, websites to use it for activism against Violence Against Women (VAW) for 16 days. yes, if u're a blogger, blog about this issue for 16 days. don't have to be serious deep stuffs but could just be ANYTHING, from a single sentence to poems to pictures to anything la.. u don't have to be female to join this but anyones who believes that technology should be used for equality and not violence should join.

The 16 Days Campaign has been used as an organizing strategy by individuals and groups around the world to call for the elimination of all forms of violence against women by:

- raising awareness about gender-based violence as a human rights issue at the local, national, regional and international levels

- strengthening local work around violence against women

- establishing a clear link between local and international work to end violence against women

- providing a forum in which organizers can develop and share new and effective strategies

- demonstrating the solidarity of women around the world organizing against violence against women

- creating tools to pressure governments to implement promises made to eliminate violence against women

*from Center for Women's Global Leadership

so though i'm not that type of person to campaign bout all this but i am a believer and that i believe that violence against women is as bad as VIOLENCE full stop, it's the same as any violence... any problem there's always a solution, we CAN make things happen peacefully without having to use violence as a method of solution....

this will be my lil contribution... at least it's a start right? ;)

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